For those of you that don’t know me, my name is Kristina Fischer and I am a cofounder of Vulgarity for Charity. I am also a Survivor of Suicide Loss. I lost my husband back on February 9th, 2018 to suicide. I decided to write the following on our V4C FB page because maybe sharing this may help someone else who may be feeling the effects of losing their love one to suicide or maybe are just experiencing their own mental health battles and/or thoughts of suicide during this time of having to socially distance ourselves.
I am not going to lie, I miss my husband as much now as I have over the last two years. I am reminded everyday, hell, every minute he is not here with me. Before I could escape by going to the office. Now I think everyday, “Josh, I wish you were here then at least we could go through this CoronaVirus isolation together!” Often I have felt like the only person that might feel this complicated grief and loss with CoronaVirus anxiety on top of it, but as I wrote this I realized that it is not true. There are many others (if not hundreds of thousands of others) feeling this loss and/or our deteriorating mental state as each day of this distancing passes by. With all this being said I started to wonder what resources are and will still be available to help get us through this time in the weeks to come. We are living in new times and are experiencing a dramatic change that no matter what your social, political, religious beliefs are or if you lost a loved one to suicide will affect each and every one of our mental states of mind. Social distancing is to stop the spread of the CoronaVirus. However we also have to be aware and do our very best to combat the anxiety, depression, loneliness, sadness, fear, and anger caused by social isolation. What I found are a list of excellent resources from National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) that includes online support groups including peer to peer counseling and virtual therapy sessions along with the suggestions for self care listed. I have included the attachment and their website link for additional information below.
Suggestions for self-care include:
1. Maintaining a routine 2. Journaling and writing down your worries 3. Talk to loved ones (by phone, text, social media or video) in a way that works for you 4. Meditative practices (such as using guided meditations and listening to calming music) Amber and Lance with Vita Pura Yoga are excellent and have provided the following suggested meditative breathing techniques.
5. Taking walks (while avoiding large crowds) 6. Talking through your fears by challenging anxious, irrational thoughts. (Myself, I do this quite often (even before the virus outbreak, to help cope with my grief and it has helped) disrupting the anxiety spiral by using techniques to bring you back into the present moment NAMI also offers online support groups and a “warmline,” a confidential, non-crisis emotional support telephone hotline staffed by peer volunteers who are in recovery.
Please visit www.NAMI.org for additional list of resources.
If you or someone you know is struggling with thoughts of suicide, you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255 Or to chat with a counselor go to:
To reach the NAMI helpline, call 800-950-NAMI, email firstname.lastname@example.org or text "NAMI" to 741741.